Healthy Relationships

How To Have A Happy Marriage

Relationships with others are important to us as human beings. Relationships with parents, siblings, friends, spouses, and children can bring joy and take on an added significance in our lives. We learn that it is often in or through intimate relationships that our romantic, companionship, and intimacy needs will be met. But what happens when these relationships are challenged?

Marital relationships can bring on new and demanding challenges. Being able to handle conflict and deal with differences is important in maintaining healthy relationships. We have to learn how to form and improve relationships, and manage with the ones that have broken down. 

The difference between a healthy marital relationship that works, and those that don’t, is how well we are able to deal with the challenges and problems we face in our lives together. If you want to have a really healthy marital relationship, here are a few things to know:

You Are In Charge of Your Own Happiness

Don’t expect anyone else to be responsible for your happiness. Too often, relationships fail because we are unhappy and blame our partner for making us feel this way. Make yourself happy first, and then share it with others.


Forgiveness is a process of ending your anger or resentment towards another individual. It can have the power to rise above all offenses, great and small. Learning to forgive someone takes patience, honesty, and respect. When sincerely given in a relationship, forgiveness may heal relationships that are suffering. Forgiveness is an act of modesty, not one of arrogance.

Don’t Expect Anything In Return 

Don’t do anything for your partner if it comes with an expectation of reciprocation. The things you do for your partner must always be done because you chose to do them and you wanted to do them. Don’t hold your “good deeds” over their head at a later time. Keeping score in a relationship will never work: a person is less likely to notice and value all the contributions of their partner as much as their own.

Be Responsible 

Responsible means that you have the ability to respond. It does not mean you are to blame. If you’ve been rude to your partner, own up to it, and think of ways on how you might do it differently and in a positive manner next time. If you are unhappy in your relationship, make an effort to learn how you might create a better relationship for yourself rather than try to change your partner.

Appreciate The Relationships

In the midst of an argument, it can be difficult to find something to appreciate about your spouse. Start by making a list of things you cherish in the relationship, and that way when you are in a stressful situation, you can handle it much easier. One definition of appreciation is to find value, so tell your spouse that you love him or her, and that you don’t want to argue but to talk and make it better.

People in supportive, loving relationships help each other practically as well as emotionally. Research has shown that people in supportive, loving relationships are more likely to feel healthier, happier, less stressed and satisfied with their lives and less likely to have mental or physical health problems. Supportive partners share the good times and help each other through the tough ones. Talking and listening are probably the most important skills in a relationship. There will always be moments of tension and disagreements, but if you can remember these tips, you can overcome almost any problem and bring joy into your relationship.

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